This Ted Talk shows a person who is split trying to figure out who she is, an aunt or an advocate. Ash Beckham is faced with a conflict where a person mistakes her for a man in front of her niece. She asks herself, do I stand up for myself, and let this person know to be more cautious and not make gender conclusions based on a haircut? Or let it go and enjoy the day with her niece, and walk out of there with shame? She is torn in two, and asks herself who am I? There are many situations where everybody in this world faces the same question. Where you have to decide what person you are. It's like Holden Caulfield in The Catcher in the Rye when he is struggling to figure out his identity, and faces many conflicts where he must choose his path and who he believes he is. And That's how everybody finds their true self, by choosing a path every time a conflict may arise, which challenges their identity.